Lost and found.
November 7th, 2009
“It is better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for what you are not.”
~Andre Gide
I saw this quote for the first time the other day and began to think about it a lot. This actually reminded me of my kids, who all seem to have rather strong constitutions and a strong core. They are all still teens but have been like this since I can remember.
Anyhow, this is such a true quote. Why conform to society and be or act like something you are not? Why chuckle at a joke that’s not really funny? Why do something that you know to be wrong just because someone else it doing it? Wouldn’t a person rather stand for something of their own, rather than something someone wants them to stand for?
It seems logical to me, that if you can manage to stay true to who you are, when you are in a large crowd, you won’t get lost in it. ~S. Burke
We attempt to teach our children this when they are small, so that they do not get involved with the wrong people. Or, those that can ‘un-do’ all that you have instilled in them. It weighs on our minds and we fear the unknown for them. I’ve come to realize that as adults sometimes we forget to apply this advice to ourselves. We have people in our lives that we know to be detrimental. Their attitudes towards life and the world sometimes differ so greatly that our heart rate increases, our stomach hurts or our nerves tense up just in listening to them.
At this point in my life, when I am attempting to grow spiritually these people in my own life are just weighing me down. I’ve decided that I’m just going to come out and tell them we can not have conversations about ‘this’ or ‘that’ and I’m not going to let negativity infiltrate my self. I’m going to apply the teachings to my self that I have worked so hard to give to my children. And if that doesn’t seem to work? I must make the difficult decision to let go…continue on my own personal journey…and wish them well on theirs.
Hi, Sheila,
Friendships changing over time is a natural part of life. However, as we get more on our spiritual path, we become *aware* of those in our life who are NOT moving in the same direction.
Our first instinct is to cut them out, and move forward. When they are family, it can be much more complicated. Older people often don’t WANT to improve or change. They will argue for their limitations, almost every time.
In the end, we can only own and manage our own energy. Law of Attraction will line us up with those who match our habitual vibration. If it’s lining up people we don’t want, it’s time to take a look at cleaning up our own energy.
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Many blessings,
Nancy